Lately there has been a battle raging in the Gardner household between Sarah and I. Ok maybe a little dramatic with that statement. We have gone back and forth the past couple of weeks trying to come to a decision or agreement. Each day one of swings back or forth on the issue hoping to find some common ground or a compromise. What can't Sarah and I agree on is.....whether or not to find out the gender of the twins.
When we first found out we were having twins, Sarah and I were both in a general agreement to find out the gender of the twins. We felt with all of the craziness we would have going on in our lives trying to prepare for their arrival, it would be beneficial to know this ahead of time. Recently however Sarah moved 180 degrees on me and has stated she does not want to find out the sex of the babies and instead wishes to wait until the birth. While I was definitely shocked at this, I think the person most taken aback was Sarah's Aunt Kater. When Sarah mentioned this to her, she was worried she wouldn't be able to buy the proper clothes for the twins!! Let's just say Aunt Kater likes to shop! It has brought up an interesting debate between Sarah and I about what we eventually decide.
There are pros and cons with both finding out or waiting until the birth. I think from my side of the issue the pros were the ability to control at least something in this craziness of our new adventure. In finding out the gender of the twins, we would be get a number of things in line for their arrival. We would be able to prepare their nursery to each twin and have it ready for their arrival. We would be able to speak with friends who may have clothes to match the genders of the twins to potentially save money. We would have time to decipher the names of the twins especially if we ended up with two boys or two girls. All of this could be done ahead of time, without everything else around us going at 100 mph.
Sarah has expressed the desire to keep things more private. Where I tend to be more open with these things, she has a desire to keep them private between us. Neither way is right or wrong, it is simply our own personalities we bring to the relationship. The biggest con would be to lose the special surprise of the moment we find out what they are in the delivery room. My worry here was to wonder if we would have that moment for just the two of us. If we found out now, I know we would have that moment alone with the doctor and a chance to share the news as we liked. If either of our mothers are in the delivery room, do we lose that special moment for just the two of us?
Sarah and I continue to banter back and forth about this in a loving way, just thankful we have this opportunity. However, it would be interesting to hear some of your thoughts. Did you find out about the gender of the baby or not and why. I would also be especially interested in those of you who had twins. Otherwise we might end up with the compromise of finding out now only what one of the two of the babies are and that could get a little interesting!
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